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Accident

July 28, 2009

Wednesday night, Thursday morning:

With only an hour to go before reaching home, I had pulled up at a service station and given Meem the car like I had done so many times before on our biweekly drives to and from Toronto. I didn’t think much of it, went to sleep in the passenger seat and expected to be woken up by her voice when she’d be pulling up my parent’s garage. I had it partially right.

Somewhere around midnight, half an hour away from home, I heard Meem scream out my name prolonging the second vowel. I woke up before she had finished saying my name and I knew immediately why she was screaming. I intuitively turned towards her, my seat still reclining, seat belt still on, half trying to control the steering wheel, half trying to shield her from the impact, failing to figure out which way I should help her turn. I saw the car spin a full 360. I saw a truck drive right by. We then headed for the side curb and hit on Meem’s side. We heard metal rub with concrete. The car finally came to a stop. The whole thing lasted no more than two seconds.

After the impact, we sat their paused for a second, while I turned my head around frantically trying to figure out if there was going to be a second impact from another vehicle. I saw a few cars but we were far off the express lane. I then turned to Meem and asked her, “Are you ok?”. Her reply was, “I didn’t do it on purpose! I swear Asad!”. Then we saw smoke coming out of the dashboard from underneath the now deployed and deflated airbags. Meem couldn’t get out from her side. I turned around once more to watch out for any oncoming traffic, pushed open my door, and grabbed and pulled Meem out from my side. We walked back behind our car and held on to each other tight in the pouring rain. Meem seemed to be screaming each time she exhaled. I called 911 and then my brother.

An hour later we were standing at the collision centre with my brother.

A few hours later we were trying to sleep on a mattress in my brother’s old room in my parent’s house. My parents are moving. They have sold most of the furniture. Events from earlier that night played in my head. I could still hear Meem scream my name. I wondered what was playing in Meem’s head. She was driving and she saw at least twice as much as I did. Whatever it was, I wanted her to forget it.

Friday:

We were eating Gol Gappas at Masala Mehndi Masti with our family. We did not take for granted the fact that the accident could have ended a dozen other ways, each no better than the way it did. We cannot possibly thank The One, The Only enough.

Saturday:

We got up at six, took showers, and boldly got on the highway again for Ottawa. We had a wedding to shoot in the afternoon. We made it on time and the wedding went exceptionally well. Some prospective clients have asked us in the past, what would happen if we were to end up in an accident or getting killed before their wedding. (We are not making this up; we have been asked this exact question more times than you would think). We didn’t know how to answer it before. We do now. The answer is: if we get in an accident, we will make it to your wedding. If we die, we will not make it to your wedding. That’s that.

Later on Saturday we drove, again, this time to Montreal on a pre-planned wedding anniversary trip.

Sunday:

I got these pictures of Meem outside a bakery and ice cream shop pointing at a cookie monster muffin in Montreal.

How happy and relieved I am to see you well my love! In His words, “If I bring you to it, I will bring you through it!”. Peace, love and strength!


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Friend. The word with many meanings. Like Love. It’s one of those few fascinating words that has a life of it’s own. We believe in it because we want to. We hold on to it because we need to. In the constantly changing landscape of life, this word takes us to the peaks of ecstasy, and to the lowest lows of depression. It courses its way through the valleys of indifference, regret and hope to find it’s way back into our hearts and our imagination. Perhaps, the word is best left alone. Undefined. Friendship is undefined. Yeah … that sounds right; at least today.

Friday: we had a date with our friend and future bride Fro to visit and scout the location for an engagement shoot she had picked. We will write more details about the location after her engagement shoot. She picked us up from our place and we drove towards Aylmer in her Civic. Fro grew up in Aylmer and has a sweet spot for it. After visiting the location, she took us on a drive. A very long and enjoyable drive. Mehreen sitting in the front passenger seat, took control of Fro’s ipod. She picked out all these english classic hits from the 80s and 90s and then switched gears with some Bollywood tunes. Fro and Mehreen sang and danced the whole time, with Fro often letting go off the steering wheel completely to do moves that required both hands (e.g. during “Where’s the party tonight!”). Asad sat in the back seat trying to keep up, but his genuine disability to dance, coupled with his five-second-memory and not knowing any of the words kept him out and quiet. At some point during the night, Fro transposed from our client & friend to our tour guide. She took us to spots in Ottawa we hadn’t discovered yet. Somewhere in between we had fries with lots of vinegar (Fro’s introduction), while Mehreen and Fro discussed marriages, married life in general and men, while Asad shifted uncomfortably on the bench. The night ended when Fro finally dropped us back home.

Saturday: The day started with an amazing breakfast of eggs, parathas and chai. By early afternoon we headed down to the church near Experimental Farm to cover Andrew and Marianna’s wedding. You can see their engagement shoot on our blog here. We got some amazing shots at the church. Their bridal shoot was scheduled for the Experimental Farm, but because of the rain we ended up doing some shots around the downtown area. Finally, we convened for their small and intimate reception at Lago’s on Dow’s Lake. At the wedding were also our friends and ex-clients Jawad and Bushra. The rest of the night was spent laughing, taking pictures, and Mehreen teaching the white guys how to do Bhangra! Don’t ask!

Sunday: Mehreen’s friends Sachin and Vibhuti came to town from Toronto so we spent most of the day with them. Some time in the morning it was discussed and decided that during the course of the day we will do their portrait shoot. Minutes later we were making wardrobe selections for them, which basically meant picking between the two shirts Sachin had brought and the three tops Vibhuti had. Needless to day, this was totally unplanned and last minute. First we ended up taking them to a park in Gatineau, where we spent about an hour or so. We then headed down to the Byward market because Vibhuti wanted to go. We took some more shots there, and had pastries at Le Moulin De Provence. Finally we took a long drive back to Les Galeries De Hull‎. Here we must give a big shout out to the best shawarma place in town! If you go to the galeries’ food court, there is this shawarma place there. The best and the freshest food ever, and the nicest people. Their potatoes with garlic sauce are a must-have! It’s almost embarassing because we take all our out of town visitors! They’ve met Asad’s parents, Mehreen’s mother and siblings, Asad’s sister, her husband and two kids, and today Sachin and Vibhuti. The lady at the counter is always happy to see us because, one, I think she finds it humourous that we bring every single out of towner to have a shawarma there, and two, because she is in love with Mehreen’s hair. The manager there also is a wonderful man, who wasn’t there today when we ordered, but he especially came out to meet us and brought us each some Baklawa later on! How nice is that? We’re always so happy to see each other, we’re idiots for not knowing them by names. We should totally ask them next time. So if you’re reading this, go and try their shawarma. Tell them you found out about them through the crazy couple who keeps bringing all their family, friends, neighbours and their dogs over. They’ll recognize us in no time!

Anyhoo … we can’t finish the post without pictures. So here are some pictures from Sach and Vib’s shoot today. Enjoy!

Our apologies, but these pictures have been removed for personal reasons

More information available at our Ottawa Engagement Photography website www.AliphAurMeem.com

July is an exceptionally busy month for us full of weddings and engagement shoots. If we’re not out shooting, we’re at home editing. We’re really excited about the weddings we’ve been covering and the images we’ve been getting. We can’t wait to blog about all of them. We are also looking forward to a major overhaul to our portfolio by the end of this season.

For now here is a recent self portrait from Imran and Sonia’s Mehndi last night.

p.s. Yes I do wish the ratio of my face to mehreen’s wasn’t 20:1.



Today we were honoured to be invited to the opening of the “Karsh: Image Maker” exhibit running as part of the Karsh Festival at the Canada Museum of Science & Technology in collaboration with the Portrait Gallery of Canada. The exhibit showcases the works of the internationally renowned Canadian portrait photographer of Turkish and Armenian background, Yousuf Karsh.

It was extremely interesting to hear the keynote speakers, which included Mrs. Estrellita Karsh, but as photographers it was even more enjoyable to study the work of Mr. Karsh. The exhibit is very well organized and each piece of work is accompanied by a little anecdote about the circumstances, sometimes technical, under which the picture was taken.

One of the things Karsh was well known for was his use of light. In one of the videos that were playing at the exhibit we heard Karsh saying something to the effect of, “as a photographer it is your job to have an image in your head before you go about pressing any buttons to take it, and then to go after exactly and precisely that image”. Prepare and plan your shots. We have often found that it is equally important to study the light as it is to study the lack thereof (shadows) when taking a picture. Not all light is good, just as not all shadows are favourable.

With the advent of digital equipment these days, it is truly remarkable to perceive and analyze the work of the likes of Mr. Karsh as it is a great insight into the artistry of photography. It is also a stark reminder that even though equipment has become more readily available, and the ease of technology has the tendency to turn us all into trigger happy photographers, photography still remains, by and large, an art form. From a 100 men orchestra, to the 4 men band, to a person sitting in front of a laptop, instruments may have changed as may have the styles of music; but any instrument alone has never and will never approximate the creativity and genius of a human mind.

Towards the end of the exhibit there was this “camera room” with five lights (far left, front left, back, front right and far right) and five knobs that could control the amount of light coming from each source. There was a queue of people waiting to get their Karsh like image and a couple of exhibit volunteers working the knobs. The pictures taken were then sent to this computer where people could type in their email address and get the picture emailed to them directly. There was also a monitor where everybody could see the picture as the action was unravelling.

While everyone was getting their sit-on-a-bench-and-look-portrait-like pictures, we had a fun idea. We got Mehreen to sit down on the stool, while Asad (who totally undermined the aristocraticness of the opening night and showed up dressed in jeans and a hoodie, unshaven for 3 days and looking like he was there to mug someone) stood in the way of the far left light. We asked the volunteer to turn up the far left light all the way. We’re proud to say we got a little applaud from the crowd after our picture!




Sorry about the picture being quite low res; that’s just how we got it in the mail!

p.s. BTW, Mehreen was supposed to look scared. That’s why we stay behind the lens!

Today we covered Umair and Sarah’s wedding in Ottawa. Though it was raining cats and dogs, we got some pretty decent pictures of the couple indoors near downtown Ottawa. We started at 11 in the morning, and got done just now around 9pm.

We will put up the pictures from the wedding once we have done our post work on them, but we wanted to put these two up right away. As photographers, we are mostly behind the lens, and hardly ever take (or like to take) our own pictures. Today, however, Mehreen happened to take this really cool shot of herself trying out her new Canon 16-35 2.8 L. It’s her reflection in the glass roof of the bride’s limo.




While, I was disappointed at not having an equally cool picture of myself, Mehreen did make me feel better by taking this fabulous picture of the good looking me.



More information available at our Toronto Wedding Photographers website www.AliphAurMeem.com